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情侶間嗌起交上嚟,可能乜嘢難聽嘅對白都會講得出口,CG!特別揀出情人間嗌交時最常見嘅對白,加以分析,並提供應用方法,以提升溝通嘅實用性同效用。

1.「你從來都唔XXX(關心、細心etc.)……」

分析:如果講呢句說話時語氣好強硬,形同否定對方一直以來對你嘅好,聽到呢句話,對方個心一定馬上涼咗一截。如果語氣帶點哀怨、委屈,聽起嚟會比較似一個請求,表示想得到多啲關注,對方聽起嚟點都會有啲內疚。

修飾句: 「我最近覺得你好似比較忽略咗我。」

2.「你話我?你自己呢?」、「你自己又好得去邊?」

分析:係以其人之道還治其人之身嘅戰術,通常係感覺自己有錯,於是指出對方嘅錯處,以轉移視線,同時令自己顯得唔係咁無道理。

修飾句:換個講法,意思相同,但對方聽起嚟會比較順耳,例如「呢件事我係有唔啱嘅地方,不過你都有咁咁咁……」

3.「我錯晒啦,好唔好!」

分析:假認錯,係一句狠說話,背後意思就像要切斷溝通橋樑一樣;亦係以退為進策略,因為唔願討論/糾纏,所以求其認錯,將「無理取鬧」嘅標籤貼喺對方額頭上。

拆解法:講出呢句話嘅人並唔係出自真心,佢心入面都係會頂住頂住,過幾日一定會忍唔住同你舊事重提,到時再慢慢同佢「溝通」都未遲。君子報仇,十年未晚啊!如果想講呢句話嘅人係你,你可以用「不如大家冷靜吓先」來代替。
 

4.「我係咁㗎喇,你想點吖?」

分析:呢句話有啲無賴,感覺就似擺明唔當你係一回事;亦有可能係因為明知自己有錯,但死要撐着面子。

拆解法:如果聽嘅一方情緒都好激動,氣氛會急轉直下,大戰一觸即發,到時嘅嗌交真係變成純粹咁嗌,對促進溝通無咩幫助。如果有人對你用呢一招,你都係暫時退下火線好了,無謂浪費彈藥,搵日等對方恢復理智嘅時候先同佢講道理。

5.「如果唔係你XXX,而家又點會YYY?

分析:純粹翻舊賬,令呢場交變得複雜化,專挑對方嘅不是嚟炒作。

拆解法:呢種專向壞處睇嘅攻擊習慣真係要改。好似教小朋友一樣,如果你總係話佢蠢、無用,他就會「如你所願」成為一個真正嘅蠢人。相反,如果對方咁樣話你,你可以提醒對方唔好忽略你做過啱嘅事。

6.「咁分手啦!」、「當初點解會同你一齊?」

分析:帶有威脅意味,通常係自己佔咗下風先講出口嘅意氣說話,十居其九都唔係真係想分開。

拆解法:如果你情急之下講咗呢句話,事後一定要解釋唔係真話。呢句說話好傷感情,唔好咁輕易講出口,如果對方當真或者一口應承就恨錯難返了。

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Time is passing so fast

Today is saturday

25 th Mar is my last day in TRE Company

it's very good company  nice colleagues

I am so grateful to meet all of them

I think I miss all of them

It's my first career

it's not complicated relationship with ecah colleagues

I speak directly and carless of some tasks

I know I need to learn how to be a good employee

Many things learn from them  

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whats apps need to charge 

do you willing to pay?

I am ok but I love line more 

Line 's stickers are so cute 

all of you agree with me?

if you  want to chat with me ,why don't you just download one more apps in your smartphone ?

am i just a friend not a best friend?

I am so dissapointed 

many game apps in your smartphone ,only  a line  ai.....

according to my friends use what app or not 

if they are common fds or a few best fds (best fds must chat with me) ,i do not use what app la

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I do not work in this half year 

the main reason is I want to improve my english as well 

I don;t want to talk more 

action is most important haha 

Start day :Tomorrow 

learn sentences structure 

ITELS listening vocab 

if I complete both ,I will eat a good meal haha

 

 

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